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Good things come to those who wait?

Me and My Munchkin: Good things come to those who wait?

Wednesday, 13 June 2012

Good things come to those who wait?

This year has been a turning point for me. I have achieved so much already, emotionally and physically. One thing that I am particularly proud of is adapting my personality from the belief of waiting for things to happen to me, as opposed to making things happen for me. I used to be the girl sitting at home alone, waiting for the phone call that could change my life. Or I would sit by, furious, and let people walk all over me. I would wait for the perfect job to fall into my lap. This was not through sheer laziness, just a misunderstanding on my part, about my job in the process of my life.

Good things come to those who wait.

I guess to some degree, this quote is true. You can't always expect everything you want straight away. For instance, you may want to buy your own house. You can't expect that you can save for a month and have enough money to buy a house (unless of course you earn megabucks!) The same is true for a job. You can't walk into an entry level position and be there a week, and expect to get promoted in that time (I'm sorry but just because it happened to Ana in Fifty Shades of Grey does not mean it's going to happen to you!)

At the same time, you can't expect to get promoted if you simply turn up for work, do your job with minimal effort and enthusiasm and go home every day. You can't expect to meet people by sitting on your couch and turning down offers of going out because that would require you to not be in your pajamas by 7pm on a Saturday night.

I used to be that girl. If I had to do anything to get it, I generally went without. Again, this was not because of laziness. I was usually scared of failure, or didn't know where to begin in the first place. It tested my will power or put me outside of my comfort zone.

I'm not sure if it's being on my own, feeling sick of getting hurt, knowing that I am the sole provider for my child or just being tired of waiting for things to happen that never do, but this year has been different. I have been putting myself out there, trying to make things happen. I refuse to accept that my past means that I can't do something I want to, and I will not let my shyness and fear of failure get in the way of something I desperately want. I know what I want, and I am going after it. I no longer rely on someone else to create my happiness. I am creating my own, and it feels oh so good!

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Are you an "action" person, or do you tend to wait for things to happen?
Have you always been that kind of person?

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At 13 June 2012 at 11:42 , Blogger Tubbah @ Organising: My Crazy Life said...

I'm definitely an action person, which in a way is not good.. a lot of the time when I want something, I want it yesterday so to speak. that probably sounds as though I'm a spoilt brat, but I mean if I want it I'll work hard to be able to get it.

I've pretty much always been like that, as I come from a family of waiters, which I know for a couple of them is sheer laziness, but most is insecurities. I can be very insecure at times, but I think I have more confidence in mysef to be able to be an action person.

I think a lot also comes down to independence. I've always been an independent person and from what you've written it seems that you've been able to become more of an action person since becoming more independent and more confident in yourself :) Well done :)

I love how true to yourself you are in your posts :)

At 13 June 2012 at 14:01 , Blogger Chrissie Me and My Munchkin said...

I am the same, in that I hate waiting for everything. I know that it won't come now, but boy do I want it now!
I always liked independence, in that I hate being told what to do. If anyone told me what to do, right from a teenager and I am still the same, I would do the complete opposite, just to prove I am the only boss of me. (My poor mum)
I have however, always relied on men. They have been my best friend, they help me with my car, they take on the financial responsibility with me so I'm not doing it alone, and I have finally realised that I can do it all myself. Or that I want to, anyway.
Thanks for your comment!
Chrissie xx

At 15 June 2012 at 09:10 , Blogger Joyce Lansky said...

I agree. Movies and books aren't reality... and we don't typically fall in love with drop dead gorgeous psychopaths either. ;)

At 15 June 2012 at 09:40 , Blogger Chrissie Me and My Munchkin said...

As much as I would love to say that the best job, the most gorgeous men and the nicest clothes just fall into my lap, unfortunately it's not true! Thanks for commenting!
Chrissie xx

At 15 June 2012 at 09:41 , Blogger Bree @ Twinkle in the Eye said...

My favourite quote: "Feel the fear and do it anyway!" Stick that on your fridge and keep on chuggin'. Living purposefully takes courage and I know you will be rewarded. P.S. I like being in PJ's by 7pm too :-)

At 15 June 2012 at 10:39 , Blogger Chrissie Me and My Munchkin said...

Oh I like that quote! Will definitely remember that one! Most nights I am showered and in my PJs within 20 minutes of the Munchkin going to bed at 7. So terrible! Thanks for commenting!
Chrissie xx


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