tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post2478612529798237614..comments2014-10-20T12:46:40.793+10:30Comments on Me and My Munchkin: What Makes a Good Mother?Chrissie Me and My Munchkinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-30528938183550265502012-07-29T11:00:31.575+09:302012-07-29T11:00:31.575+09:30Oh I do love this response. It really is all withi...Oh I do love this response. It really is all within ourselves and silencing that inner critic that tells us we are doing it all wrong.<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-48292793017994389822012-07-29T10:59:31.187+09:302012-07-29T10:59:31.187+09:30It is so easy to be hard on yourself. We are our o...It is so easy to be hard on yourself. We are our own worst critics. But if we just turn off that negative voice and remember all of the great things we do for our children, that is what they are likely to remember over the time we lost our temper at them. I am in awe of you and how you manage 2 of them at once! I struggle at times just with my one!<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-19370031714644230722012-07-29T10:57:39.346+09:302012-07-29T10:57:39.346+09:30Definitely! We need our time out too. And there ar...Definitely! We need our time out too. And there are mums out there that will make us feel bad for that (I have come across some, sadly) but we just need to block that out and do what's best for us and our family.<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-71429457956919261042012-07-29T09:15:31.737+09:302012-07-29T09:15:31.737+09:30I agree. Love is so important. I tell my son I lov...I agree. Love is so important. I tell my son I love him all the time. Although he is too young to really understand, he loves the cuddles and kisses that come with it.<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-65860299201535671792012-07-29T09:14:04.440+09:302012-07-29T09:14:04.440+09:30There really are. What doesn't help is reading...There really are. What doesn't help is reading about people in the spotlight making mothers feel bad for doing one thing or another. It's like no matter what we do we can't do the right thing. I experience that with my son's dad. No matter what, I am being selfish and not thinking of my son. It's all about learning to block it all out and listen to your own heart only.<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-10314342053644706182012-07-29T09:12:14.756+09:302012-07-29T09:12:14.756+09:30We mothers are just hard-wired to experience mothe...We mothers are just hard-wired to experience mother guilt I think. You are right though. There is always a new experience, a new age to learn, a new child going through individual experiences. You never stop learning.<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-47084010268529640832012-07-28T08:53:12.165+09:302012-07-28T08:53:12.165+09:30I think the most important thing is love. I know ...I think the most important thing is love. I know it probably sounds too simplistic, but to me, that's when I feel that I am the best mother that I can be, when I know that I'm mothering from the heart. xShelley @ bluebirdsandseashellshttp://bluebirdsandseashells.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-17678339752610445062012-07-27T23:37:28.226+09:302012-07-27T23:37:28.226+09:30Perfect response...my sentiments completely! TBPerfect response...my sentiments completely! TBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-26830220884598539432012-07-27T18:37:57.114+09:302012-07-27T18:37:57.114+09:30I know where you are coming from.. so many standar...I know where you are coming from.. so many standards and rules to what makes you a good mother.. I just hey throw them out the window.. we are only human and we are not perfect! We can only do the best we can do.. some days are a breeze and other days hard as hell, no matter what situation you are in! <br />So glad to have found your blog!! xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01382824004623471361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-19347139998434703092012-07-27T16:58:50.139+09:302012-07-27T16:58:50.139+09:30I think you're right in that it's hard to ...I think you're right in that it's hard to define what a 'good' mother actually is. I have no idea if I'm a good mother, and 8 months in I'm still being surprised by how much there is to learn and do just to simply be a mother! I think all we can do is our very best and try to be happy with that (doesn't get rid of the mother-guilt though)<br /><br />Found your blog through FYBF and looking forward to reading more.Kylie Purtellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185153539010825877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-19531943039435962132012-07-27T15:42:11.028+09:302012-07-27T15:42:11.028+09:30Being a great mum ultimately comes down to you fee...Being a great mum ultimately comes down to you feeling good about the decisions you make as a mum. There is no right and wrong between fairly broad boundaries. Being happy within yourself and being kind to yourself gives you the strength to grin and bare the hard times and feel dizzily happy when the good times are with you, everything I between is just life xBachelormumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03504457751565428290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-68784626503040860192012-07-27T15:24:26.828+09:302012-07-27T15:24:26.828+09:30I used to have all these ideals of what it would t...I used to have all these ideals of what it would take for me to be a good mum...that was of course, before I had children.<br />Now, I'm a lot more realistic. (I just had the worse afternoon with the twinlets. Ever...)<br />This motherhood gig is really, really hard. It's so easy to be hard on yourself too but we just need to remember that we're doing the best that we can.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03191888392393911765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-73550541269001560562012-07-27T11:11:55.263+09:302012-07-27T11:11:55.263+09:30I don't think doing Any of those things makes ...I don't think doing Any of those things makes you a bad mum. I'm sitting here reading blogs when I should be cleaning or playing with the kids but I think we all need a time out sometimes. My kids are happy,healthy and very loved children. Id like to think I'm a good mum but even good mums have bad days. XLifeasmummymaxhttp://www.lifeasmummymax.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-29762743976314222692012-07-27T06:47:34.135+09:302012-07-27T06:47:34.135+09:30Great answer Kaylene! Being a mum really is hard, ...Great answer Kaylene! Being a mum really is hard, but sounds like you have knowing your a great mum sorted!<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-52599354801458149812012-07-26T19:38:40.428+09:302012-07-26T19:38:40.428+09:30Being a mum is sooo hard. There are so many people...Being a mum is sooo hard. There are so many people saying what's right what's wrong. Being a good mum is doing the best we can do and loving our children more than anything. I lose my temper but that does not make me a good mum. I love my time out but that does not make me a bad mum. I work 4 days a week and my son is in daycare but that's life and does not make me a bad mum. You are not a bad mum at all! Mums deserve a life too and if we are happy then so are our childrenKaylenenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-25196991137313784532012-07-26T19:01:57.581+09:302012-07-26T19:01:57.581+09:30Thankyou what a lovely comment! We are all human. ...Thankyou what a lovely comment! We are all human. Some cope better than others, and we all have different ways of coping, there is also so many things to factor in, not just our children. There's work, partners, family, friends, everything can take it's toll, and we just have to cope, and as long as our children are safe and loved, that's the main thing :)<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-6058638197557254792012-07-26T19:00:08.061+09:302012-07-26T19:00:08.061+09:30Thanks for your comment what a great way of lookin...Thanks for your comment what a great way of looking at it! I believe there is always room for improvement with parenting, and have set myself parenting goals. That said, As long as we are providing love and support to our child, we are doing something right!<br />And thanks for letting me know the hesitant housewife shared this, I have headed over to thank her!<br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-31041857780729941632012-07-26T11:51:42.429+09:302012-07-26T11:51:42.429+09:30I loved this post. Honestly, I do all those things...I loved this post. Honestly, I do all those things that you mentioned and sometimes I feel guilty about it but other times, I recognise that it's just my way of coping. <br />I have so much admiration and respect for you for being single mum. I really do.<br />Ronnie xoRonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01466441168826959532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-9022828481071720572012-07-26T11:30:09.485+09:302012-07-26T11:30:09.485+09:30Being a good mum to me is by being myself and role...Being a good mum to me is by being myself and role modelling love, compassion. Showing my child different emotions including frustration and anger is ok if not too often and abusive. Role modelling coping strategies is being a good mum. "mummy is feeling upset now, lets put on some music it helps me feel better" or "mummy needs time out, can you watch a dvd for a little while?"<br />Making opportunities for physical activity and creativity, even if your 'not good at it'.<br />Waiting a short period of time for mummy to finish what she is doing encourages patience and independence (if not an urgent and if its not neglect!). Even when you feel like you are being a not so good mummy, what are the positives you can use in these situations? <br /><br />I loved your post - the hesitant housewife shared it :)Neenish Artshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859749316448840174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-23865467541428622382012-07-26T09:20:06.938+09:302012-07-26T09:20:06.938+09:30This can be such a gray area. We seemed to be damn...This can be such a gray area. We seemed to be damned if we do, and damned if we don't in so many aspects of parenting. Everyone has their opinions so it's hard to know what makes you a "good" mother. <br />Chrissie xxChrissie Me and My Munchkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187005769102456988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4357804796612079302.post-1855450665804976432012-07-26T08:33:17.810+09:302012-07-26T08:33:17.810+09:30"I love my child, feed him, put him in warm c..."I love my child, feed him, put him in warm clothes, play with him, cuddle him, provide him with toys and take him out to experience the world (or the community anyway!)"<br /><br />That's what makes you a good mum :)<br /><br />Wanting to go back to work to provide for him does not make you a bad mum. <br /><br />I think as long as mums don't abuse their child in any manner (and I'm not talking about a smack here and there) and provide them with love and basic needs as you've stated above, then she's a good mum :)Tubbah @ Organising: My Crazy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02554447717968747888noreply@blogger.com