Solo parents means all rules are thrown out when it comes to Mother's and Fathers days. If the other parent is still even around, you need to decide whether you will do gifts, and how much you will spend.
We are about to come up to the 12 month mark of when Master A's dad and I split up. We split about 2 weeks before his dad's birthday, so I was happy to buy a copy of the new Big Bang Theory season on DVD for him. For Christmas we exchanged small gifts and agreed to keep exchanging gifts "from Master A" for things like birthdays, Mothers and Fathers days and Christmas.
I wanted to keep this up, to teach Master A about the importance of giving, and that Mummy and Daddy can still be friendly and do the right thing.
My birthday came next, and my present was nowhere to be seen. It came about 4 weeks later. Yes, I was a little annoyed seeing as I did make an effort to ensure I did the right thing and on time!
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My birthday present from Munchkin this year. 4 weeks late but an awesome present! How did he know? |
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My cards for Mother's Day, including a handmade one from Daycare. Love this boy so much! |
I must say that the thought that I am going to look like the bigger person is making me feel a little better about it (yes I know, vein!) but I have come to the conclusion that one of us has to teach Munchkin the right thing to do. It's a small present that hasn't cost me much, and I'm sure he will get a much nicer gift from his girlfriend's child, but it sends the correct message to Master A, and that is the most important thing.
Its Friday so I'm linking up with Bree over at Twinkle in the Eye for Flash Blog Friday...
Chrissie you can so hold your head high - you are setting such a wonderful example to your little munchkin and you should feel damn good about yourself hun xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Lovely :) Holidays and special days can be such a hard thing to navigate in a co-parenting relationship, as I'm finding out! I need all the help I can get!
DeleteChrissie xx
Good on you for being the better person. Your son is lucky to have such a good role model in his life x
ReplyDeleteThanks Kelly! You really know how to make someone feel special :)
DeleteChrissie xx
good on you, doing the right thing by your son is all that matters! And maybe you could get yourself a gift too...after all you are filling both shoes (mum/dad) most days.
ReplyDeleteHope you have a great weekend with your son xx
Thanks Lisa! I'm hoping I'll win big at my first time at the races tomorrow so I can treat myself!
DeleteChrissie xx
Such a great example you are setting! I do the same, we make a big deal about these days and Darby loves it! I suppose I make a little joke of it, by buying my ex jocks and socks, its a bit weird, but we have a giggle and move on!
ReplyDeleteVery proud of you to keep on doing this.. munchkin will appreciate this so much down the track
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It's hard, seeing as he can't make the effort to do the same, but that little sense of satisfaction I get makes all the difference ;) I know that Master A will love this when he's old enough to understand what it means.
DeleteChrissie xx
Good for you Chrissie. I think you should keep it up for the rest of your boy's childhood. It's about your boy, not your ex :)
ReplyDeleteExactly, and though deep down I wanna grow "screw him, he doesn't deserve it" Master A will love it when he really understands.
DeleteChrissie xx
You are a wonderful person x
ReplyDeleteAwww *blushes* thankyou so much Lovely :)
DeleteChrissie xx
In my humble opinion, you're doing the right thing and teaching the right behaviour
ReplyDeleteThat really is the most important thing. One of us has to, and I guess that's me!
DeleteChrissie xx
Good on you for putting the interest of your lovely little boy first! Also keep in mind that males are bloody hopeless at keeping track of occasions like birthdays and organizing gifts. That is what they have partners for. Dadabulous cant even remember his own birthday.
ReplyDeletePS you ARE one of the beautiful girls - you just dont know it yet!
Do something nice for yourself this weekend.
Love Mumabulous
Thanks so much Hun, I know how hopeless they can be. I just figured if he could remember a card a bunch of flowers isn't that hard, especially considering if the shoe had been on the other foot, he'd have cut off my head for forgetting!
DeleteChrissie xx
I think you're doing a fabulous thing. And yes, like Sonia said, it's you who'll be setting a good example for your boy.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs xxx
Thanks Hun, it turned out well, I got a simple thanks via email which is more than I was expecting! Chrissie xx
DeleteThanks so much sharing this honest post with us, I found it helpful and insightful.
ReplyDeleteSo wonderful that you are putting your little boy first, even though it must hurt and be hard for you.
Hugs,
Ronnie xo
It actually felt pretty good! (Like I said, vanity) But at the same time I felt a bit spiteful, like why should I give him gifts if he can't be bothered. But we got there in the end!
DeleteChrissie xx
You are so right to set the good example. This is about your munchkin learning important lessons about graciousness.
ReplyDeleteExactly, and like I said earlier, one of us has to do it.
DeleteChrissie xx
Good on u hun! ur setting a great example for ur son and thats all that matters. :) xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Love, I try :)
DeleteChrissie xx